My brother and sister-in-law are a few months away from being parents, which should be the happiest time of their lives. I got an email from him this morning asking me if I know how it feels to feel like he has no family. HELLO - I'm the poster child for that! I spent 10 years fighting with my family about my husband, who isn't the perfect man on earth but he does everything for me and our family. I went through my second pregnancy without my family, and, during my seventh month, I was in court because my mother was suing me for Grandparent's rights. My brother was on her side.
I've always been supportive of my brother and the decisions he makes. We didn't find out about his wedding until after the fact. He said he didn't want to hear any shit from the family. I totally get that. Since the beginning, I've tried to get to know his wife but she makes it very difficult. Everything to her is material. She's overly concerned about material possessions, which have no effect on me. I don't have a lot of money and, sometimes it's difficult for us to make ends meet, but I'm the richest woman in the world because I have my family and some great friends.
I'm tired of fighting with family and I've decided I'm not going to do it anymore. People are going to believe what they want to believe and there's not a whole lot I can do to change that. I know what I say, how I say, and how it comes across. I don't have to justify or explain myself to anyone. I tend not to hold my tongue but I'm tactful until someone gives me a reason not to be.
I initiated this conversation with my brother by sending him an email because most of his family wasn't invited to the baby shower, including me and our grandmother, who raised us. He gave some lame excuse about people needing to be paid in order to buy more stamps. Well, my sister has the guest list that was emailed to her from my sister-in-law and our names aren't on it. I was hurt because I've been there for my brother when no one else was. My husband and I spent our anniversary helping them get settled in their new house for heaven's sake!
I can't stand people who are more wrapped up in money and material things than people. They're going to spend their entire lives working and for what? You can't take the money with you when you go. At least my life is fulfilling. I take time to smell the roses. Yes, I work, I have 2 bad ass boys, I'm finishing my MBA, I have a husband, 4 pets, and friends who depend on me to be there for them. I'm just as busy as everyone else but I always make time for those who are the most important to me.
At the end of every day, I know that I've done everything to the best of my ability. I'm not a two-faced ass kisser who only tells people what they want to hear and then disparage them behind their back; it's beyond reproach. That's not my style and the people who know me the best know that. It's sad that more people aren't like that.
I'm tired of dealing with drama all the time. So, I'm just not going to deal with it anymore. Enough is enough and I'm drawing the line. This bullshit isn't worth losing any of the relationships I have no matter how jacked up they are. I'm going to keep being the awesome person I am and, when people are ready to see that, I'll be here. Until then, I wish them all the best in their endeavors.
With that being said, I've got to get back to work.
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